Embrace Your Femininity
Attract the Relationship You Desire!

feminine goddessCan you imagine casting a spell on a man and not having to move a finger for it? Would you find it too good to be true that you can attract a wonderful relationship and a good man in your life just by being yourself, a feminine goddess that just bursts out of you with no effort?

You probably know or have met a lot of confident women who just seem to know how to deal with men, they just keep being in the centre of attention no matter what they do and this seems so effortless and natural for them. Well, some women do this instinctively or they just have great experience in handling man.

And maybe you say :
„I will never be able to do that.
I don’t have the looks,
I am not that young any more and men prefer only hot young chicks,
I am divorced with children, there is no chance for me”

or any other reasons your mind is throwing at you.

But here is the good news! Even if you think you do not naturally posses these skills, they can be learned and developed and I will tell you exactly how.

Let me tell you a bit of my story first. I realized a while ago that whenever I was close to a meeting with a man or somebody important at work, I started to create scenarios in my head about what I was going to say, how was the meeting going to be, what will I say to impress and then imagine what will the other person will say as a response.

And this dialogue in my head just continued until the actual date or meeting happened. And guess what, I was not able to live in that moment, I was not present in the conversation because in my head I was looking for clues to see if my scenario will transplant into reality.

No wonder that me and the man I was seeing were not on the same page, no wonder that no connection was build and instead I was left frustrated that the other person was clueless about me. And I thought: „Boy, I am so complex that men cannot understand me.” I even took some pride in it justifying why I felt so disconnected from people around me. That was so NOT ME, I can clearly see it now.

And then it hit me. I just realized I didn’t have to do anything to impress others, I didn’t have to help them understand me. All I needed to do was to inspire them to see the real me. And I could do that by being present, engaged in the conversation, naturally curious about the other person, simply put in words BEING me.

So, what does it mean to be a woman? Is it long hair, make-up, a backless dress, stiletto shoes and red lips? These elements can be part of the arsenal of a woman, but it is surely not the essence of BEING feminine.

Being a feminine energy woman is about expressing feelings in a way that do not hurt or point to others. It is about sensing rather than judging, it is standing still instead of doing things for your man, it is about having pleasure first in who you are and what you do and not expecting others to please you or make you happy. It is about accepting pleasure and thanking for it rather than working the heck out of you to please others. And I do not mean that a woman should become egoistic, demanding or passive.

I actually dare you to change your entire mindset. A woman is not entitled to be pleased by others just because she is a woman, she is first of all entitled to find and pursue ways that make herself happy and accomplished in life. And there is a MUST too: a woman always has to be grateful when receiving affection and attention and never take these for granted from anyone.

There is a little exercise that I encourage you to do when you feel the urge to do things, to control an outcome, to grab on something you can only see before your eyes. When you catch yourself doing this immediately transform yourself into a bird. Pick a flying bird that you like and immerse (identify) yourself with that bird. Then fly above the situation you are in, look at everything from above and see all your worries and fears like little black spots on the ground.

Acknowledge them and then fly higher. What do you feel? What do you see? Do you see forests, mountains and sea? Or maybe a beautiful field of lavender or flowers? There is so much in the world out there and those little black spots called worries or need of control just disappear. When your flight is done, come back to your departure place. How do you feel now?

SeagullI LOVE the movie  Jonathan Livingston Seagull. The main character is a bird, a seagull, whose main purpose in life is to fly higher and higher and become the best at it.

That’s what I do when I feel the need to manage, control or get the answers that I want. I just put on my seagull wings and fly.

If you are in a situation where you are doing to much for your man or anybody else, I will be happy to work together with you and fix this mindset.

When we work together you will be able to:

  • Learn to trust who you are and get in tune with your feminine self
  • Set clear inner boundaries so that you can always stay grounded to who you are, no matter who you are interacting with
  • Say the exact words that will inspire other people to see the real you
  • Do less work and action and learn to sink deep into your feelings in a way that creates instant attraction in your man towards you

So, book yourself private time with me at violetta@coachvioletta.com and I will be happy to work with you.

Let your femininity shine,