Oh, I remember the days when I used to work hard to please the wrong people instead of investing in myself. And the more I tried to please them, be nice to others in a furious attempt to prove myself worthy and lovable, the more I lost myself.
What a bitter place to be in, I can clearly see this today!
If you are like me, you probably thought and felt many times that being guarded and protected keeps you from suffering, especially in love relationships.
I used to be like that. I used to be the Queen of self-defence mechanisms. I could have had a successful business in selling these mechanisms to people.
Most of the problems and suffering in love relationships come from a poor understanding of the difference between masculine and feminine energy. Men and women are different. They see relationships, love or sex from different perspectives.