Most of the problems and suffering in love relationships come from a poor understanding of the difference between masculine and feminine energy. Men and women are different. They see relationships, love or sex from different perspectives. Not knowing and accepting this major truth about relationships gets many women into turmoil over and over again in their love life.
I was like that for a long time. I thought that the only way to get satisfaction in love was by doing, by investing in the relationship, by being nice, candid and understanding, smiling when I felt like ripping the walls off. If you are in the same situation, I can understand the pain and the confusion.
I have done this over and over until I realized and learned that one of the most important secrets for a wonderful relationship, if not THE most important, is understanding and maintaining a constant balance between masculine and feminine energy in a relationship. Every woman is unconsciously constantly bouncing between the two energies: feminine and masculine. You are in your masculine energy when you rationalize, plan, do things, run a business or a team, or a house. And this is the perfect way to act when you are at work, doing what you like, taking care of kids, etc.
The feminine energy is instead about being, feeling, sensing. It is what you see in the mirror of your soul when all the masks, barriers, social conventions are put aside. This is what your man should see every day. Or any man that you wish for yourself.
How Do We Tap Into Our Feminine Energy?
1. Feminine Energy Is Open To Receive Love And Affection
In order to inspire a man to see that YOU are the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with, you need to learn to accept and receive love. Men fall in love when they can offer, not when you do something for them.
But, sadly enough, many women behave like they do not deserve to be loved. They want to carry the responsibility and the burden of a relationship. And this is what makes things go bad.
When we flood a man with affection, attention, delicious dinners, gifts and things like this, there is not much room for him to offer any of these instead. When you invest so much, when you give up yourself to accommodate his needs he will rather see you as a mother or a friend instead of a lover.
All you have to do is to be open and willing to receive love from a man. And you also have to give something back: appreciation for everything that he is doing for you, respect for who he is and gratitude. This way you clearly signal that YOU are worthy of his time, energy, affection and love.
2. Feminine Energy Has Strong Boundaries That He Needs To Respect
As we all know, men are competitive souls and they LOVE challenges. They need to fight in order to appreciate the ONE they get. The prize is mostly appreciated when there is effort put in obtaining it.
If you become totally devoted to him from the beginning of the relationship, if you invest time and energy more than he does, HE WILL DOUBT YOUR VALUE!
However, this does not mean that you should play HARD TO GET! Games always backfire. Strategy and manipulation last very little and they do not work long term.
What works is having real, solid inner boundaries. When you are standing on a rock yourself you can be very open, sweet and accommodating to any man. Because no men could swipe you of your feet.
Anytime you give up your values in order to be with a man, the relationship goes nowhere from the start. If you compromise yourself in order to satisfy a man, this is the moment you lose him. You kill his instinct to fight for you and cherish you as a prize.
3. Feminine Energy Puts Her Feelings and Happiness First
If you want to be happy in a relationship with a man, you have to be happy with yourself first of all. A man should never be a substitute for your happiness. You need somebody to share a good and fulfilled life with, not a vending machine that gives you little moments of joy in exchange of 100 $ notes.
If you have a full life, don’t give it up when you meet a new man you like. We all know the story of new lovers who never spend time with family and friends in the first three months of the relationship because they spend each and every moment with each other. Only to come over to their friends, weeks or months later, to licks their break-up wounds.
A mature man, ready for a committed relationship will only appreciate a woman with a full life, with passions and hobbies. Because when she makes room for a man in her busy life, this is when it is highly appreciated.
There is no reason to give up everything for him because having a life full of passions was what mesmerized him about you in the first place.
Knowing and applying these traits will have a major impact on your love life. Even if you are already in a relationship or just looking for love, you may very well apply them. You will see radical changes.
Let your femininity shine,